Relationship Panel Follow Up - March 3, 2018
Posted March 3, 2018
Thanks for participating in the Relationship Panel last Saturday. As mentioned, we pledged to post additional resources for your reference and reflection.
To recap, here are a few things we discussed on Saturday:
- The goal of any relationship is ultimately to point others towards Christ
- We discussed a few ways to maintain Christ centred relationships
- We discussed our roles in dating, singleness and friendships
- We established that ultimately, no matter what relational status we may be in, God is sufficient, so we need to focus on finding our identity in Him (and not rely on anything else to “be complete”)
Deep within us is a real need and longing to connect with another person. We want to love and receive love in return. So many people are willing to risk the pain in hopes to find companionship in another person.
The Bible doesn’t specifically talk about dating but does about evaluating people. If dating is discerning/evaluating whether you want to spend your life with a particular person then looking at character should be at the top of the list. Not just the other person’s character but your own as well.
Here's the seven minute conversation about dating we watched together: https://www.thegospelcoalition.org/article/best-advice-for-dating-couples/
We discussed the importance of non-negotiables and examined those raised in the video:
- Being rooted in church community
- Treasure each other’s purity
We also explored why we should cherish singleness. Those who are single are still called to be part of God’s mission - to glorify God and point others to Christ - their status in God’s kingdom is equal to those who are in relationship. Singleness, even for those who long to be married and aren’t, is not a trial to be endured; it is a positive good. It is a gift to be cherished and maximized.
Lastly, Justin led us to review the importance of friendships. We examined the difference between strong friendships and strong Christian friendships. We examined the importance of shared values in friendships that last. We also looked at what sacrificially building one another up looks like.
Resources for additional exploration and reflection are listed below.
- Philippians 3:8
- Philippians 3:13-14
- Mark 12:30
- Romans 15:2
- 1 Corinthians 7:32-35
Recommended articles on dating:
Recommended articles on singleness:
Recommended articles on friendships:
May God bless your relationships =)